To Give or Not to Give a Gift When You Can’t Attend a Wedding?

To give or not to give a wedding gift?

If you’re attending a wedding, giving a gift is a must. After all, you are being treated to a fabulous party with free food and an open bar. But what if you can’t attend a wedding? Are you still obliged to give a gift to the couple?

Proper wedding guest etiquette says YES, you should still give a wedding gift even if you aren’t attending the wedding. The reason being is that a wedding gift should not be considered an admission fee for the wedding at which you will be entertained, wined and dined, but rather a way to congratulate the couple on their wedding.

Furthermore, it’s not as if the bride and groom sent you an invitation randomly or by accident. They took the time to include you on the guest list, address and send you an invitation. This means they valued your presence and wanted you to participate in their celebration. There’s no better way to say, “I wish I could have been there,” than by sending something lovely to the newlywed couple. If the couple is using Zankyou wedding gift registry, there’s no easier way to send them exactly what they want.

Always give a wedding gift

Bottom line: Even if you aren’t attending a wedding, it’s still proper to send a wedding gift. It’s a thoughtful gesture that will be much appreciated. The best and easiest way to send a wedding gift is through Zankyou. The couple will thank you!

Would you still send a gift for a wedding you won’t attend? Tell us your thoughts on wedding guest gift giving etiquette in the comments below.

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Comments (2)

pretty betty
January 25, 2012

Oh no! I always thought that you didn’t have to give a gift when attending a wedding. Now that I’m about to get married, I see that it’s the right thing to do. Thank you so much for this insight!

January 26, 2012

I thought this was common sense but I could see how people would make that exception for not sending a wedding gift.


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