So, you’ve been in a relationship for quite some time now. You’ve had your ups and downs, shared all kinds of beautiful memories, and been there for each other through thick and thin. As a couple, you’ve pretty much done it all. At this point, there is really only one more step you can take. That’s right. Marriage. No matter how great you are together, you’re probably still thinking: Is marriage really the right thing for us?
It’s totally normal to have second thoughts about getting married. After all, it’s a huge step and there is a lot of uncertainty after saying “I do.” It could make the relationship even better or damage everything you’ve accomplished together as a couple.
Sharing many happy years together doesn’t necessarily guarantee that the marriage will be successful. It’s a matter of understanding the step that you’re taking and taking into account the responsibilities that you’ll be sharing such as family and finances.
If you have doubts, fears, or questions about the future of your marriage, stay calm! We consulted a psychologist and gained some very interesting insight for couples looking to take the next step. Take note of these 5 ways to know if marriage is the right step for you and your partner.
- You’ve grown mature together
According to American anthropologist Helen Fisher, love follows four steps.
Lust comes first of course, but the first real stage of love is passion. In this early stage, everything is based on emotions and physical attraction. Then comes romantic love, when being with your significant other becomes more of a necessity than a desire and a certain kind of dependence is formed. Then, mature love, where an even deeper appreciation is formed between partners. Mature love is based on a bond of trust and support. Before you decide to tie the knot, think about what stage your relationship is at.
There is a final stage. It isn’t a very happy ending, but not all couples get there. This last step is called “cooling” and it’s exactly what it sounds like. This stage can be avoided by staying clear of monotony.
- You’ve overcome hardships together
If you haven’t faced any problems as a couple, maybe you’re not ready for marriage. With every difficult experience comes growth. If you’ve had misunderstandings, gone long distance, fought, gone on a break, or even broken up and still managed to move forward as a couple, you might be ready for the next step. These kinds of hardships provide strength, knowledge, and experience to face a new stage, where communication, respect, and honesty are key.
- You get along with each other’s family and friends.
Think about it. Aside from you, these are the most important people in his life. The closer you are with each other’s loved ones, the closer you are to each other. Getting along well with the closest friends and relatives of your partner allows for more trust, freedom, and overall, more happiness in the relationship.
- You share goals and aspirations with each other
Everyone has hopes and dreams. As a couple, you don’t need to have the same aspirations in life, but supporting and pushing each other to achieve them is essential. Supporting each other’s life goals is not only necessary for the wellbeing of the relationship, but for personal growth and happiness.
- You’re both financially stable
It’s true that material things don’t matter, but knowing that you will be financially stable throughout your lives creates peace of mind and allows you to focus on building a life together.
So, do you think your long term relationship is ready for marriage? It’s important to know that love is a promise and mutual respect, trust, and support are essential to the success of any relationship. Does your relationship share these 5 characteristics? If so, you might be ready for the next step!